My Life & My Journey to Paving My Own Lane

Have you guys ever chose a certain path in life to please and get the approval of others like your parents? I did. Have y'all ever just "settled" with how your life was going because it was "safe"? I did. Have any of y'all ever received a degree, and felt like you had to stay employed in that field because of all the money and time you took into obtaining it? I did. And let me tell you, I HATED LIVING THIS WAY! I felt like my life wasn't mine anymore, but it was for everyone else who had a say in the choices I made. I was trying very hard to be this perfect person that everyone expected me to be. I am college graduate, was employed full-time at a "good job making good money" with my degree, but I ABSOLUTELY HATED HOW THINGS WERE GOING!

For starters, with the chemistry degree I received in 2016, I always had a vision of having a career in the field of forensic science. I applied more than once for positions in this field, but was never given the opportunity for employment. So I settled and took a job as a Lab Tech at this dirty, raggedy, chemical plant. It was literally the worst place I've ever worked at, and I've worked several jobs from the time I was 16 and I'm 29 now lol. Needless to say that that position didn't last long, and from there it was just a string of in my opinion "dead end jobs" in which I gave my all to but it was not appreciated. I got paid pretty good, but the money was never worth all the stress that I went through for jobs that I settled for. I felt that I desperately needed to find something with my degree to make my parents happy, proud, and in a sense "repay" them for their sacrifices. I never wanted to have them look at me as a failure and be upset or disappointed to have me as their child. Like I said, I was always working to please others, but what about me? What about what I want to do? What about the life that I want to create for myself? What about me pursing the things in life that bring me joy and satisfaction before it's too late? Something in me would not let me continue to live for others and not myself. So I took a stand and said "I'VE HAD ENOUGH!"

I decided to do some research to see how I could stop saying "I want to change my life" and actually do it. I found this great book called "What Color Is Your Parachute" in 2020 (I highly recommend this book) and it completely changed my life! This book contains a plan on how to find your passion in life and how to pursue it. Don't get me wrong, I do love the science field, but the compacity at which I was practicing it was not for me. For instance, I love being in the lab and performing experiments, but I did not care one bit about the products that I would have to test. I didn't even know what most of these products were used for or how they worked! So yes, I strongly feltl that my talents should be used for what I care about and not just to receive a paycheck.

In finishing this book, I found that my passion in life was to bring more beauty into this world. After digging deeper within myself to figure out how to do that, I found a sector in which I could bring my chemistry experience into the beauty field. This is how Aries Seduction Beauty was born. I also decided to take a hobby of mine which is braiding and pursue it as a career as well.

I made a whole 360 after I got a sense of where I wanted to take my life. I quit my full-time position as a chemist, started doing gig work (Doordash), and tried out other full and part-time positions to see what other industries that I would like to work in. I have a boss mentality, but until my business starts to grow significantly, I still have to make money that traditional way to survive lol. I did find two part-time jobs (as a baker and a barista) that I like, have kept for a while now, and I'm proud of myself. The ones closest to me know that I don't keep a job long so this right here is a big accomplishment for me lol. Even though I'm not making as much money as I was before, I'm less stressed out than I was, I enjoy the work that I perform while also having more time and energy to give to my business.

Not everyone understands why I'm doing what I do but it's not meant for them to understand. I had to have several talks with my mom to explain that I wasn't returning to the chemistry field to work full-time. She was so proud of my accomplishment and that I had a fancy new title, but eventually she understood and is letting me do my thing with her full support. My dad on the other hand is a different story and it's ok. I have no one in this life to please but myself. I would rather die trying than to not have tried at all. My advice is that if it makes sense to you than do it! You don't want to live your life filled with regret when you can take charge now and live on your own terms. Remember, this is your life to live not anyone elses. So go into this world and just do you!